For example, when a person in a group of 4 starts trailing behind, or when people circling up squeeze someone out of the circle, or when a group of people start migrating and one person kind of gets left behind…while this can seem as excluding others, sometimes that’s not it at all. It might be helpful to know that some people see it as, not leaving the other person out, but as leaving the other person alone.
I’m an extreme introvert yet people are attracted me (I have no idea why I feel I give off strong ‘leave me alone’ vibes but whatever) and tend to ‘include’ me when don’t want to be included, so when I see someone trailing behind or sitting off by themselves I tend to assume they are like me and just taking a breather, or want to have some time to themselves. They want to be left alone.
I also tend to assume grown folks can speak up and take care of themselves. With children and teens (I teach) sure I’ll regulate in group acitivties and make sure everyone is included, but with adults, I’m not going to do all that. especially when I’m trying to sit back and chill myself lol. What’s stopping them from joining in, why do they need another adult to do this for them.